Define your problems
Do analyse your relationship and figure out which parts works and which parts don’t. It is important to know the negative points of your relationship to burn them down.
Use the three-sentence rule
Keep your requests to your partner into three sentences or fewer, e.g.: “Honey, the dinner is not cooked and I am exhausted. Could you help me make dinner? I will finish it fast with your help.”
Take your fighting gloves off
Keep aside your warrior mode. Instead, consider taking a time-out. The next time you see a spousal discussion going to a not-so-happy place, take a break and revisit the subject rather than escalating the subject.
Burn your grudges
It’s time to set some bad memories on fire. Instead of carrying grudges on each other around forever, torch them. “Write them all down on a piece of paper and burn them down, and stop complaining.
Nurture yourself
Learn how to prioritize and put boundaries around activities that keep you healthy and whole.